Understanding and having power over my action, untimately lead to power over my surroundings. Self-control was a lot to conceptualize as a young adult. My growing and development were multifaceted. Physically growing, emotionally growing, and developmentally growing simultaneously. Frequently outside influences can be disruptive. Fortunately for me internal conflicts were my biggest challenge.
Self-control, learning to remain quiet, actually siting still for long periods of time these were the most difficult. I am glad that I never gave up. I am glad to have had steadfast support. At all times I believed in my goals. Part of my story is the fact that I identify as African American or simply put I am a person of color. As a person of color attending two different predominantly caucasian elementary schools I was always one of the few people of color in my grade let alone my entire school. So at the end of ninth grade after not being asked to return for tenth grade due to disruptive behavior, I asked my parents if I could attend a school with more students “of color”. My parents and I decided I would attend one of the very elite three public magnet schools in the greater Philadelphia area. Central High school was coed and was the largest of the three.
The Philadelphia High School for Girls was my mother’s alma mater. George Washington Carver High School of Engineering and Science was the one I chose. The school was located downtown on my mother’s way to work and in the direction of my younger brother’s school, Friends Select School. Each morning my mother would take my brother and I to school, this was very important time to gather our thoughts and discuss our goals for the day. Carver High School of Engineering and Science was an environment that included adolescents from the neighborhood and other neighborhoods in Philadelphia. This was a very unique experience for me. I was able to learn and develop coping skills. This was an opportunity to continue to build myself determination and self-resilience. I instinctually followed my mother’s sound advice I was very quiet in high school, it was as if in this environment I had become the soft spoken non-confrontational peaceful person. Quakerism had made a great and positive influence on me. These are the characteristics I try to emulate on a daily basis to this day.